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Be the change you want in your spouse -marriage tip

So the mantra, “be the change you want to see in the world” is really big right now….
Let’s take it one step further and change that to “be the change you want to see your
Spouse!” all the time as a personal trainer,  I have husbands or wives asked me,  “What can i do
to get my spouse excited about eating healthy,  losing weight and get in shape?”
My answer is …do it yourself,  lead by example, be the change you want to see in them and I bet you pretty
much anything that they’re gonna follow suit!!  They’re going to get inspired.
They’re gonna go start learning along with you. They’re going to see the
results you are having and get jealous for some themselves.  They will think hey he’s looking really good maybe
I should you know get out there and get some work out on myself or lose 15 pounds too!

The great thing about being the CHANGE you want to SEE IN YOUR SPOUSE is that it works for whatever it is you want to see change.
whether it’s fitness, spirituality, being kinder
being a more outgoing
more sexual
more financially responsible
more patient
etc…
If you want to see change in your spouse, simply take a little step back to ask, “what can i do to be the change I want to see my spouse?”  Be honest with yourself, are you currently an example they can emulate or are you being a hypocrite?
Take on the change you want them to emulate. Be determined to show them how awesome it is be “that change” and it works!!  It’s applicable to so many different things!!
Be the change yourself!  They’re going to notice, learn and experience through your example.
It might take time, effort and patience but definitely worth it!
Good luck with being your best so your spouse can be their best!!
Please, let me know what you think of this tip below
thank you!

Dating -marriage tip

DATING is another FIT marriage tip for you.  You need to still date your spouse like
they’re your boyfriend or girlfriend!!
You must take the time away from life and just spend time with your spouse. AND it’s got to be just you and your spouse!!  a lot of couples get on in the habit of constantly going out
with other couples on their dates…That is not a DATE!  Going out with other couples is  all good and dandy every now and then but you still need the majority of your dates to be just be you and your spouse.
Dating means taking to connect intimately with your spouse physically, mentally and spiritually. Your not running errands, talking about the kids or your work…instead you should be talking about your life goals, your wishes, dreams and expectations for your future. Special things like that!
Make the time to make sure you go on dates don’t let life get too busy!
Even if you can’t “go out” you CAN do dates at home. Take a night or afternoon where you ON PURPOSE and ANNOUNCE (to the kids) “We are on a DATE” at home.  You must take the time to connect!
Cheers to you having a good marriage and I love you!